In the last issue, I discussed the idea that your personal belief systems dictate your reality experience, and that it is not only possible to change your beliefs but that it is essential to personal growth and happiness. I disclosed some ideas on the very first step which is to find out what your current beliefs are.
Here I will outline the next steps to take:
Ok, so you’ve put in the work to discover your beliefs, and you have identified some of your limiting beliefs that you want to delete, or some positive beliefs that you want to expand. Perfect, you are in a positive place.
Note: Don’t skip that part, go back to my other article if you haven’t read it yet, or you can’t do this part.
Next, (and this is an extremely important step that I hardly see mentioned or taught), you must get the permission-approval from your inner emotional-subconscious self in order for your subconscious to create the change for you.
If your subconscious-inner self disagrees or doesn’t see the value in your choice, and you have tried any and all techniques but it will not budge, you cannot bypass this.
Even though it seems like you can –because when you start self-development you normally start at the bottom– and the only direction you can go is up. Therefore, your subconscious is already going to be in total agreement with many of the new loving choices that you make. These choices are also generally within your current personal paradigm (they seem reasonable, beneficial and realistic for you); this pattern gives you the impression that you can command your subconscious to make whatever change you want.
This is technically true in theory but there are some variables that are not considered. Eventually, you try to expand past your personal paradigm and then nothing seems to work; once this occurs you tend to doubt yourself and feel as though you have not made progress and you regress and devolve.
Remember that your subconscious exists in complete devotion to you.
It will not allow you to bypass your limitations willy-nilly, for it predicts the danger in this and will protect you.
Examples: you want to improve your relationship or create a new one; you want to get fit-healthy; cure an illness; you want a successful business, etc.
If your personal beliefs indicate that you cannot handle the success; the responsibility; the let-down if you fail; the pain; or if it has negative associations such as love=pain, success=I’ll become arrogant; or fitness=impossible, etc., then, to aid you your subconscious will actually deny your choice to create this change. Especially if you do not input this change in the correct way.
To expand your personal paradigm you will have to sit in meditation and talk to your subconscious-inner emotional self.
Once you figure out what your current belief is you will have to ask permission to shift the belief, (it is usually wise to do so gradually unless you sense you are absolutely sure it will accept a quantum leap. Think run- the-bases, instead of going for a home run. Most times, all your inner self wants is to be asked, so it knows you are sure you know what you are doing, and you are making decisions as a team. However, many times it will reject what you are saying anyways, and you will have to gently convince it to change its opinion and open up.
This may seem a little confusing or overwhelming, but if you keep yourself in a calm state as you explore this you will eventually understand what I am describing and see success. In the next issue, we will take this practice further, good luck!
A rule of thumb is to use the logic of what it is holding onto, and not fight against it.
You will have to sit and discuss with your subconscious all the benefits of the change you want, and why it should trust you to step into this change.
For example: If your subconscious wants to protect you from your goals you will have to show it that you no longer need that protection. You may have to explain that just because your past relationships or business ventures ended in pain, doesn’t mean they are inherently painful.
The decisions you made, the circumstance you were in and how you handled yourself were all factors in feeling like the goal is fundamentally negative, when it is not. You have to show it that with a different circumstance or person, you could try again and it would be better; but more importantly, you will have to convince it that you could personally handle the success or responsibility, or the pain, that may come.
There are no guarantees, and there may still be pain or struggle, but if your subconscious trusts you enough to handle these challenges then it will let go and start supporting you in reprogramming what you want. Self-trust becomes a vital concept, if you don’t have enough of it you will have to open your subconscious up to the idea and prove yourself.
Example: I will develop the skill of meditation and emotional processing so that I can heal myself if my new relationship goes wrong. Or, I will take new courses and get a mentor so I will have an easier time succeeding in my new business, job etc.
If it agrees you will feel a warmth and an openness. Congrats! This means you are ready to reprogram!
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